Some months ago, I wrote this post and never got around to publishing it. I recently came across the draft and I thought I would share it with you all, in case you're going through a rough moment or need some reassuring words:
Long gone are the days when our main worry was which skirt looked better on our Barbie or who was going to be the mom and who was going to be the sister when playing pretend. Now we live in a world where everything is idealised through all kinds of social media. Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, you name it. We try to make our life appear wonderful and full of joy. A few scrolls through most people’s feed and what you’ll see is a bunch of beautiful pictures of them having fun and smiling. No sight of the nights spent crying in bed or the stressful moments cramming, in an old t-shirt with holes, knickers and unwashed hair, in an effort of trying to pass their next exam to get that much needed scholarship.
Because all we see is the happy moments - the Instagram worthy snapshots - we get caught up in that idea that our life should be like this too, that being sad or feeling down is wrong. But we’re not playing fair. We’re comparing without seeing the whole picture.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about sharing happy memories with the world not only for them to see but for myself. I love scrolling down my Instagram and re-living some of my best experiences, or reading some of my old posts. However, we need to stop playing pretend as if we were 5 and realise that what is shared is only a minuscule part of one’s life and that there’s much more going on behind the scenes.
Nobody has a ‘perfect’ life, regardless of how much you might envy someone or how much money/fame/love they might seem to have, there will always be struggles you’re unaware of. Because those moments are not pretty, they’re not captured or talked about, making it seem like they’re nonexistent. But the truth is, everyone cries and everyone feels down at some point, you’re not alone. And it’s okay. It’s okay to not always be okay. Take your time to get your shit together, and SLAY.